Counselling is essentially the process of helping solve a personal or psychological problem using a variety of strategies that are customized to the individual and/or couple.
The problem can be situational, meaning that the problem came about as a result of new circumstances and/or events. The problem might also be something that has been present for quite some time without ever getting better.
How Often Do I Need to See a Therapist?
Typically you meet with a therapist/counselor on a regular basis until you are satisfied that your problem has been resolved or you have the necessary mindset and strategies to effectively manage the situation going forward.
Why Should I see a Therapist?
People come for help for a variety of reasons such as:
- Relationship troubles
- Parenting strategies
- Stress
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Understanding their anger and how to manage it
- Dealing with death
- Low motivation
- Abuse
- Divorce/separation
- Trauma
- Self-esteem
- And so on…
Seeking help or support from a therapist still seems to have a negative association. People might feel it is a sign of weakness, embarrassment, they should be able to figure it out themselves, too expensive, or that it will not help.
A good therapist is not going to tell you what to do. A good therapist will help you decide what is best for you and will provide clarification, information, and challenge your perspective to help you get to that point. This does not have to be a long process. It never surprises me how quickly people can turn things around with the right information.
One last point, not all therapists/counselors are the same. Your relationship with your counselor is the most important factor in the process. If it doesn’t feel right for you then it will likely not work, but don’t give up on all therapists. Ask for a 10 minute consultation to determine the fit is right for you, check to see if they are any videos describing how they work, or ask a friend if they know a good counselor.
Hector MacPherson, M.Ed.